Can you believe that it is time to say goodbye? Does it feel like they were just born? Do you look at then thinking: “I remember the day they were…”

Leaving your child at college can be an emotional experience. It was for me, when my son left for college 3 years ago. I did not expect it to be so emotional, but it was. It was harder for me and for my husband. My son was completely ready. I remember thinking that if I’ll be very organized and help him prepare in advance, the process will be easier for me. But it wasn’t. What I learned is that it is completely normal and understandable to be sad and even to feel grief. Your mind knows that it is time and that they are ready. But your heart cries inside. Don’t feel guilty for being sad. Don’t expect yourself to be strong, perfect and a super-parent. Acknowledge your feelings. Accept them. Talk with someone who has done it before and ask for support. Plan something nurturing for yourself for the days after saying good bye.

It is important for you to acknowledge your needs and your feelings, but that doesn’t mean that you should project that onto your child. When you say the final goodbye, they need to know you’ll be OK without them. Get the support before and after, but on that moment, the goodbye moment – be fully present and excited for them. Send them with your blessing. After they’re gone, take that time as an opportunity to look within and set goals to empower and improve your life. Use it as an opportunity for growth.

As a life coach, I see people all the time who are growing and fulfilling themselves after saying good bye to their love ones. I am honored and happy to partner up with them and help them live up to their potential. Take your first step towards self-growth and schedule a FREE Coaching session.